Maybe I shouldn’t write this right now. I’m still angry. I’m going to write anyway because sometimes writing when you are angry helps solve things. I come from a family that doesn’t support creative endeavors. Art and creative hobbies are okay when you are a kid but when you grow up, you conform to society and must do boring work that you don’t like. You don’t get to choose what you want. If other people in your life say you must do this, then it must be done. I’ve been struggling with that for a few years now and my parents don’t even know about my blog. In fact, the only person who knows about my blog is my boyfriend. He doesn’t get it. I thought he would be supportive but he’s not. I thought he would be because he’s actually really artistic and a good drawer but he doesn’t even do that anymore. He tried to get me to help him do some construction work while I was in the middle of trying to figure how a new way to create my inspirations boards (since Polyvore shut down) and I told him I was busy. He said with a scoff, “What could you possibly be doing that is busy?” I told him about the blog and he said: “That’s not working at all.” It made me so upset because everyone (including him) always says that I should do what I want. He told me recently that I need to start doing things for myself and doing what makes me happy. Well, blogging makes me happy! Writing makes me happy! Planning my first novel series and dreaming of someday being a published author makes me happy! We met at a time where I had pushed my dreams to the back burner to make everyone else happy so he doesn’t know my creative, free spirit side as well. He just knows the fake me. I took his advice and started doing things for myself and now all of the sudden it’s a problem. Just because I don’t want to fix a lawn mower on a Sunday afternoon or work a trade like he does doesn’t mean my dreams and goals are invalid. I’m a creative person and that’s how I’ve always been. Either take it or leave it.
How do you deal with unsupportive loved ones when it comes to your dreams and goals?