When People Don’t Support Your Dreams

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Maybe I shouldn’t write this right now. I’m still angry. I’m going to write anyway because sometimes writing when you are angry helps solve things. I come from a family that doesn’t support creative endeavors. Art and creative hobbies are okay when you are a kid but when you grow up, you conform to society and must do boring work that you don’t like. You don’t get to choose what you want. If other people in your life say you must do this, then it must be done. I’ve been struggling with that for a few years now and my parents don’t even know about my blog. In fact, the only person who knows about my blog is my boyfriend. He doesn’t get it. I thought he would be supportive but he’s not. I thought he would be because he’s actually really artistic and a good drawer but he doesn’t even do that anymore. He tried to get me to help him do some construction work while I was in the middle of trying to figure how a new way to create my inspirations boards (since Polyvore shut down) and I told him I was busy. He said with a scoff, “What could you possibly be doing that is busy?” I told him about the blog and he said: “That’s not working at all.” It made me so upset because everyone (including him) always says that I should do what I want. He told me recently that I need to start doing things for myself and doing what makes me happy. Well, blogging makes me happy! Writing makes me happy! Planning my first novel series and dreaming of someday being a published author makes me happy! We met at a time where I had pushed my dreams to the back burner to make everyone else happy so he doesn’t know my creative, free spirit side as well. He just knows the fake me. I took his advice and started doing things for myself and now all of the sudden it’s a problem. Just because I don’t want to fix a lawn mower on a Sunday afternoon or work a trade like he does doesn’t mean my dreams and goals are invalid. I’m a creative person and that’s how I’ve always been. Either take it or leave it.

How do you deal with unsupportive loved ones when it comes to your dreams and goals?

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I Heart Spring Tag!

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I love spring! It’s actually my second favorite season (autumn is my first favorite) but I adore it! I love flowers, rain, warm weather, and baby animals. I love to sit outside on my covered porch and watch the birds flit among the trees during spring. Today, I am answering some questions from the I Heart Spring Tag. I’d love to hear from y’all. Feel free to answer some of the questions in the comments below or link a post below if you decide to do the tag.

1. Favorite Spring Nail Polish? I haven’t been wearing nail polish lately because my nails get pretty beat up with my job but I love pastel colors. I would wear a pretty light pink on my nails for spring.

2. What is your favorite must-have lip color? Right now, I am loving the Katy Kat Matte lipstick in the Coral Cat color. I love coral and the Katy Kat lipsticks are great!

3. Favorite spring clothing item? Right now, it’s the dress I wore for Easter. I got it at Ross from $7.99 and it’s great! It’s pretty but comfy and I feel like I could wear it anywhere.

4. What is your favorite flower? My favorite flower is actually the rose but that doesn’t bloom this time of year. My favorite spring blooming flower is the daffodil. I just love the cheery yellow color. There is a huge daffodil festival near me every year and I love to go with my mom and see all the beautiful varieties of daffodils.

5. Favorite spring accessory? I love scarves. Spring is great for fashionable scarves that are made of a light material. I like to buy scarves with different patterns and designs. I have a huge scarf collection and I wear every single scarf at least once every season.

6. What spring trends are you excited about this year? I love that 1960s florals made a return to New York Fashion Week! I love fashion from that era and I would like to try and incorporate that more into my wardrobe.

7. Favorite Spring Footwear? My flip flops! I live in flip flops once the weather gets warm. Either that or I go barefoot. There is nothing better than the feeling of grass beneath my feet.

Feel free to answer some of the questions below. I’d love the hear from y’all!

How To Drink More Water

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Water is good for you. You should be drinking it every day! I used to be really bad about drinking water until a month ago. I would just guzzle soda and sugary drinks. I had low energy and felt fatigued all the time. Plus, the sugary drinks did not help with my weight gain. I just one day decided, I was tired of feeling bad all the time and not seeing results with my weight loss goals. I did not quit soda cold turkey. I still have the occasional glass but I no longer consume bucketloads of soda and I don’t drink it every day. Water is now my daily beverage of choice. I wanted to share with you how I started drinking more water.

First, I researched how much water I am supposed to consume a day. There is a magic formula!

  • Take your current weight and divide it by two. For example, 174/2=87.
  • That number is the number of ounces of water you should be drinking every day. I should be drinking 87 ounces.
  • If you prefer a different measurement, it’s easy to convert! I prefer measuring liters. 87 ounces is 2.5 liters.

Next, I got a water bottle that had the measurements on the side. I found a nice one at Five Below. It has the measurements with lines on one side of the bottle. It makes it easy to know if I’m drinking enough each day. Especially while I am at work!

Now, I know it’s hard to break the habit of drinking sugary, carbonated drinks. It was hard for me! My number one trick for this is to buy seltzer water and zero calorie water flavorers like Dasani and Mio. Just make sure you aren’t grabbing anything that has aspartame in it. Aspartame is really bad for you! I would avoid it at all costs! Diet soda really isn’t a good idea either. It’s better to quit soda all together, in my opinion. Eventually, you won’t even crave the carbonation or the flavoring! It’s also nice to add fruit to ice water. It’s very refreshing, especially in the summer.

I hope that these tips will help you or inspire you to start to be healthier! I’m not a doctor or a nutritionist but this is what worked for me.

Sunday Message: Luke 21:19

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“Stand firm, and you will win life.”

Luke 21:19

Good morning to my lovely followers! First, since my blog is new, I want to make one thing clear. I am a follower of Christ. Jesus comes first in my life. I grew up in the Southern Baptist church but it’s about the relationship, not the religion. I plan on making regular Sunday Message posts and other Bible and Christian life posts as well. I really hope y’all enjoy these messages and my interpretation of them. I am no Biblical Scholar. This is just how I understand God’s Word.

I really like Luke 21:19. It is straight to the point and is a great verse for young adults! It is saying, be patient. God has a plan for you. Just be patient and wait for him. Now, it doesn’t mean do nothing. You can still be productive. Just make sure it’s what God wants. If you aren’t sure what God wants, pray about it. Sometimes, what God wants is not what you want. That’s okay. Have faith that everything will work out. Instead of complaining about it, ask God what He is trying to teach you.

This is something I’ve really been struggling with lately. I recently turned twenty-five and my life is nothing like eighteen-year-old me had planned. I sometimes feel really down about it. I’ve learned to stop complaining to God about it. I know God has a plan even though it seems like my life is going nowhere. He has recently started to reveal more to me. Meanwhile, I’m just standing strong and having faith that God isn’t going to let me down. Even if I hit rock bottom, he’ll pick me back up again. God will never leave me.

What does Luke 21:19 mean to you? Do you have a different interpretation of the verse? How does this verse apply to your life? I’d love to hear from you! Happy Sunday!

Currently…

Today, I am sharing the first post in a new series! Every month, I will share what I am currently reading, listening to, watching, and following. Without further ado:

March 2018

Currently Reading…

  • The Complete Sherlock Holmes Volume 1 by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle
  • The Complete Sherlock Holmes Volume 2 by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle

Currently Listening To…

  • God, Your Mama, And Me ft. Backstreet Boys by Florida Georgia Line
  • From The Ground Up by Dan and Shay
  • Even If It Breaks Your Heart by Eli Young Band
  • I Like The Sound Of That by Rascal Flatts
  • A Thousand Years by Christina Perri
  • Every Storm (Runs Out Of Rain) by Gary Allan
  • You’re Gonna Miss This by Trace Adkins
  • It Goes Like This by Thomas Rhett
  • I Know Somebody by LOCASH
  • All The Pretty Girls by Kenny Chesney
  • Smooth by Florida Georgia Line
  • Saltwater Gospel by Eli Young Band
  • Legends by Kelsea Ballerini

Currently Watching…

Blogs I’m Following…

Of course, this is not a complete list. The YouTubers are all the ones I watch regularly. In future posts, I will post specific videos from them. The blogs listed are my favorites at the moment. Do you have any favorite bloggers or YouTubers? What books do you recommend I read? What about music? What bands or songs are at the top of your list? I’d love to hear from you! Feel free to comment below what you are currently reading, listening to, watching, or following.

My Spring 2018 Goals and Plans

Hello! Today, I thought I would share some of my goals and plans for this spring. This spring is going to be pretty calm and not super busy but there are a few things I’d like to do!

  • My first goal is to lose ten pounds. I’ve gained a lot of weight over the last couple of years since returning to Virginia from Yellowstone. I’d like to lose some weight and get back to the fitness level I was five years ago.
  • My second goal is to Drake Bell in concert. Drake Bell is coming to Richmond at the end of the month! My best friend and I have plans to go see him since the tickets are only $20 at the door.
  • I would also like to start a garden. Now that I have a house, I can start my own garden! It will be small this year but I am looking forward to growing some herbs and vegetables.
  • I am also starting some renovations on the house. My first renovation is to pull up the carpet on the screened porch and replace it with some outdoor tile. I also want to start painting the interior of the house and the shutters.
  • Finally, I am taking my yearly trip in May to volunteer at Damascus Trail Days in Damascus, Virginia. I’ll share more about this trip when I go but it’s an awesome Appalachian Trail hiker festival. It’s a lot of fun!

What are your goals and plans for Spring 2018?

11 Questions About Me!

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Hello to my lovely readers! As my first official post, I wanted to introduce myself a bit more. I found a list of 95 Random Get To Know Me Tag Questions. Of course, I won’t bore y’all with all of the questions so I chose my favorite ones to answer! Feel free to answer some of the questions yourself in the comments below!

1. Where do you live? I live in an area of Virginia called Hampton Roads or Coastal Virginia. It’s about an hour and a half north of the Outer Banks of North Carolina near Virginia Beach.

2. Are you named after anyone? My middle name Rives is an old family name. It was originally the last name on my father’s side dating back to 1400s, England (Though back then, it was spelled Ryves). It is now a tradition that the oldest girl in each generation has Rives in her name. I am the only girl on that side of the family born in 65 years so I got the name! Of course, my future daughter will have Rives in her name.

3. What is your biggest regret? Honestly, my entire childhood. I went through childhood with a terrible attitude and I regret a lot of things. My parents tried to encourage me but they didn’t want to force me to do anything. If I could go back to my first day of preschool and start over, I would. I’m pretty happy now but I wish I had done things differently as a child.

4. What is the best compliment you have ever received?  When I was twelve, I broke my leg right before Christmas. I was in a cast for six months and couldn’t ride my horse. I had everything going against me. I was at a Christmas Party and one of my parent’s friends told me “You’ve been through so much, yet you still keep a smile on your face. You are always so positive and bright!” They didn’t know what I had going on in my head and I’m glad they didn’t. It was a huge confidence booster. That was thirteen years ago and I still remember it clearly.

5. What is your biggest accomplishment? My biggest accomplishment is hiking Fairy Creek Trail in Yellowstone National Park. The trail is 16.9 miles but my hike was about 22 miles because we started our employee dorm instead of the trailhead. It was amazing! It was a huge accomplishment because I had never hiked so far in one day and at an elevation I was not adapted too. Here in Virginia, I live at sea level. The highest point on the trail was a bit over 9,000 feet (a 2,000-foot elevation gain from Old Faithful Village where I originated). I’ll share more about my summer job in Yellowstone in a later post!

6. Describe yourself in a single sentence? I am an adventurous, determined young adult ready to take whatever life throws at me.

7. How many boyfriends have you had? I’ve had four boyfriends over the last twelve years. My current boyfriend and I’ve been together three and a half years.

8. One thing you know now that you wish you had known as a kid? I wish I had known how hard being an adult is. I’m very happy, don’t get me wrong but I had it so good as a kid. I wish I hadn’t tried to rush my childhood and kept a good attitude about it.

9. What are some of your bad habits? My bad habits are binge eating when I’m upset or bored, drinking a liter of Dr. Pepper every day (I did recently cut out soda though), and playing Sims 4 for hours at a time.

10. What are your hobbies? My hobbies are hiking, reading, writing, horseback riding, animal rescue, and traveling.

11. What countries would you like to visit? France, England, Germany, Japan, Italy, Australia, and Singapore.

Feel free to answer any of the questions in the comments below! Do you have any questions for me? I’d love to answer them for you!